Blaise Pascal (1623–1662) was a French mathematician, logician, physicist and theologian – One of his famous quotes – “Je n’ai fait celle-ci plus longue que parce que je n’ai pas eu le loisir de la faire plus courte”. (Literal translation – I made this [letter] very long, because I did not have the leisure to make it shorter), has been paraphrased many times..
Today our communication has been reduced to sound bites that are almost totally ineffective as most people put very little thought into what they want or need to say.
We have created a culture of gross miscommunication, a culture that is now hell-bent on communicating everything in a meme, a 140 character message or a 5-10 second video. Too many times I have seen memes, like the one I have used in this post, with absolutely no explanation whatsoever, other than the saying in the picture.
The biggest challenge to me, and I expect most people, is that we don’t really know the intent of the person who was posting this meme . Are these messages reflecting what the person thinks, feels or are they just trying to say, “Look at me, I think the same as the famous person in this meme, aren’t I clever?”
I feel, and I could be wrong, that just posting a meme without a personal explanation or comment or opinion is a total waste of time and it can actually detract from a persons personal reputation online. I see this happening too many times on Facebook, now LinkedIn and Google+, and my first thought is, do these people have a life, isn’t there anything else better they could do to contribute to their, community, their family or themselves?
On the other hand if they are posting opinions and comments with their memes, we are getting an insight into the person, their heart, we are actually making a connection, a connection that can be the beginning of a process to building a relationship rather than wasting people’s time and bandwidth.
We need to put more thought into what we post, write or say because our communications runs the risk of being dumbed down, if it hasn’t already, and we will continue to lose huge opportunities to connect with the right people, in the right way, simply because we haven’t taken the time to create the right message, for the right circumstances, for the right person.
What are you doing? Are you being relevant? Are you achieving the success YOU want to achieve?
“The Race” – by Dee Groberg
“Quit! Give up! You’re beaten!”
They shout at me, and plead
“There’s just too much against you now.
This time you can’t succeed.”
And as I start to hang my head
In front of failure’s face
My downward fall is broken by
The memory of a race.
And hope refills my weakened will
As I recall that scene
For, just the thought of that short race
Rejuvenates my being.
A children’s race, young boys, young men
Now, I remember well,
Excitement, sure! But also fear,
It wasn’t hard to tell.
They all lined up so full of hope
Each thought to win that race,
Or, tie for first, if not that,
At least take second place.
And fathers watched from off the side
Each cheering for his son.
And each boy hoped to show his dad,
that he would be the one.
The whistle blew, and off they went
Young hearts and hopes afire
To win, to be the hero there
Was each young boy’s desire.
And one boy in particular,
Whose dad was in the crowd,
Was running near the head and thought:
“My dad will be so proud!”
But as they speeded down the field
Across a shallow dip
The little boy who thought to win,
Lost his step and slipped.
Trying hard to catch himself,
His hands flew out to brace
And ‘mid the laughter of the crowd
He fell flat on his face.
So, down he fell, and with him hope
– he couldn’t win it now –
Embarrassed, sad, he only wished
To disappear somehow.
But, as he fell, his dad stood up,
And showed his anxious face,
Which to the boy so clearly said:
“Get up and win the race.”
He quickly rose, no damage done,
– behind a bit, that’s all –
And ran with all his mind and might
To make up for his fall.
So, anxious to restore himself
– to catch up and to win –
His mind went faster than his legs;
He slipped and fell again!
He wished, then, he had quit before
With only one disgrace.
“I’m hopeless as a runner now;
I shouldn’t try to race.
But, in the laughing crowd he searched
And found his father’s face.
That steady look that said again!
“Get up and win the race.”
So, up he jumped, to try again
– ten yards behind the last –
“If I’m to gain those yards,” he thought
‘I’ve got to move real fast.”
Exceeding everything he had
He gained back eight or ten,
But trying so, to catch the lead,
He slipped and fell again!
Defeat! He lay there silently
– a tear dropped from his eye –
“There is no sense in running more;
Three strikes, I’m out, why try?”
The will to rise had disappeared
All hope had fled away
So far behind; so error prone
A loser all the way.
“I’ve lost, so what’s the use,” he thought
“I’ll live with my disgrace.”
But, then he thought about his dad,
Who, soon, he’d have to face.
“Get up!” an echo sounded low,
“Get up, and take your place
You were not meant for failure here,
Get up, and win the race.”
With borrowed will, “Get up,” it said
“You haven’t lost at all.
For winning is no more than this;
To rise each time you fall.”
So, up he rose to run once more,
And with a new commit
He resolved that win, or lose,
At least he wouldn’t quit.
So far behind the others now
– the most he’d ever been –
Still, he gave it all he had,
And ran as though to win.
Three times he’d fallen stumbling.
Three times he’d rose again.
Too far behind to hope to win
He still ran to the end.
They cheered the winning runner,
As he crossed the line first place,
Head high, and proud, and happy.
No falling, no disgrace.
But, when the fallen youngster
Crossed the line last place,
The crowd gave him the greater cheer
For finishing the race.
Even though he came in last.
With head bowed head low, unproud,
You would have thought he won the race
To listen to the crowd.
And to his dad, he sadly said,
“I didn’t do so well.”
“To me, you won!” his father said,
“You rose each time you fell.”
And now when things seem dark and hard,
And difficult to face.
The memory of that little boy
Helps me to win my race.
For all of life is like that race
With ups and downs and all,
And all you have to do to win,
Is rise each time you fall.
Business networking like social media, means so many different things to so many different people and because of this, there is a lot of confusion in the marketplace about what it is, what it is used for, and how effective it can be.
I can understand when people use the term “networking”, and they put a great deal of emphasis on coffee catch ups, social networking, getting together for drinks etc…
But when you confuse this with “Business Networking” then it can create a problem because expectations can be very different.
In the last few months I have had the privilege of engaging with 273 people and asking them all a very simple question.
That question was:
“What is your understanding of business networking?”
Interestingly, there is no wrong answer to this question, however, in my opinion, only two people actually nailed the most appropriate answer to the question.
Many people said it was to make connections, to make a sales pitch, to build relationships, to build my database and so on… each of these are a valuable perception.
As I stated earlier, there is no wrong answer!
Two people on the other hand categorically stated that business networking was a system.
You see… they understood that “networking” isn’t a verb… ie. “I’m going networking!”
They understood that “networking” in a noun… that describes a process… ie. “I’m going out to network.”
A system that is not just valuable in business, but needs to be used by everyone, in everyday life, in every situation where we connect and communicate with others.
In fact, everything we do with other people is the process of networking… building relationships.
Most people don’t actually understand the real importance of “networking” in their lives, and they are never taught the fundamentals of developing an effective networking system that will help them build good quality relationships with people.
The system has a number of components, the first of which is actually getting an understanding of why we network and why it is so important in our lives.
Remember – every time you connect with somebody… you are starting an amazing relationship journey… enjoy.
A thought for today…
We learn by making mistakes…
Gain self-assurance through conversations…
Be elegantly seduced by a problem or music…
Have inspiration through genius…
Grow by nurturing and open and loving heart…
Yet to become a better you…
… this is something only you can do.
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